February's Love Tune-Up - Be Present

I have chosen to focus on my Marriage in February. Naturally just around St Valentine's Day! I spend a lot of my time with Ricardo (approximately 96 hours a week). So naturally a huge chunk of my happiness would come from being with him and what kind of energy we feed off each other. Featuring "20 Marriage Tips Everyone Needs to Know" an article written by a recently divorced gentleman (link below). Which I found to be incredibly profound with so much #truth. So I have chosen 4 really important points he brings up that I find I could really brush up on and bring the swoon back into my life.

http://www.viralnova.com/20-marriage-tips/

Goal: "BE PRESENT. Give her not only your time, but your focus, your attention and your soul. Do whatever it takes to clear your head so that when you are with her you are fully WITH HER. Treat her as you would your most valuable client. She is."

We all want that can't eat, can't sleep high we first get about a new guy/girl in our life. Just counting the minutes to see them and jumping right into their arms the moment we lay our eyes on them. Many people in long term relationships will know that this high does NOT last for the most of us. Our "hey babe, missed you soo much!" basically turns into "hey finally your home can you hold this?". Though our relationship has evolved to something more real, I would still like to ignite the spark between us giving Ricardo the fun and companionship that I did back at the age of 16. 

There comes a time when you just need to put your phone/iPad down. That last notification does not need to be checked right at this minute! We need to take advantage of the handful of hours, give our undivided attention to the bf/gf and show them how important what they have to say is. Think of all the hardship and good times you go through in your day to day. Wouldn’t you want to share that with someone? Wouldn’t you be just so happy if someone put down all their distractions and really listened to what you had to say about your day? Well that is one free gift that you are able to offer everyday. WARNING: Don't be too eager to give your feedback! I find the simple act of listening is one of the most underrated tools of communication. 

With me I find it hard because the little time I have after work is spent on a bajillion tasks. If I I find myself needing get up and do something while listening in on his day at he bakery, I will gently let him know I am still listening so that he doesn’t take my body posture as “Dear God this is torture”. Body posture is a big key to communication. We say so much to each other without a single word said. Ricardo has in fact caught me with my many faces and bulls eyed exactly what I was thinking.

Look them right in the eyes and face them as much as possible. It won’t hurt to mention how you truly feel about each other. One never knows what could happen tomorrow. Take advantage of every second you have as if it might be your last with them.

"I want you. I want all of you. Forever. You and me, everyday." - The Notebook